You Really Do Love Yourself!

A client asked me this week how he could work on loving others when he didn’t feel like he loved himself. How many of you feel like you don’t love yourself? Perhaps you have been told that you don’t love yourself enough and that has answered many of your questions about why your life is the way it is. “I’m unlovable, I’m not loved, and “I’m undeserving” are many people’s reasons for failure in their life. It can make total sense and you may have yourself thoroughly convinced of this, just like my client was.

I was smiling when I reminded him that he ate a very strict, healthy diet, he
exercised regularly, he lived in a beautiful little cottage that he thoroughly enjoyed, he spent money on alternative health treatments, he was busy creating an even more amazing life for himself and he surrounded himself with great friends. I asked him: “What part of that indicates that you don’t love yourself?” There was silence at the other end of the phone. Everything that I reminded him of definitely smacked of loving himself. It became very obvious pretty quickly that the “old story” that he didn’t love himself was precisely that – an OLD story.

So if you feel like you are not loved enough and are having a bit of a pity party, I highly recommend that you stop right now and change that story. The fact that you are reading this newsletter, that you even subscribe to empowering information is proof that you love yourself. I bet there is evidence in every hour of your day that you really do love yourself. For example: Did you brush your teeth this morning? Why did you bother? Probably because you like the feeling of clean teeth. You don’t want people to think badly of you if you have bad breath. Aren’t those indications that you love yourself? Absolutely!

Do you put your seatbelt on in the car? Do you stop at red lights? Do you look both ways before you cross the road? Why would you care if you didn’t love yourself?

Society today has permeated this tribal mentality belief that you don’t love yourself. It is much easier to control people who don’t have high self-esteem, self-confidence and who live in fear. It is much simpler to get people to spend money on things if they are feeling lousy about themselves. We are conditioned by society that the new dress or the new leather couch and the trip to Hawaii will make us feel more special, more loved, more deserving.

What rubbish! You are a child of God, a product of this Universe and everything and I mean EVERYTHING is perfect, special, loved and deserving. Do you think that an eagle looks at a blue jay and wishes that he was the same beautiful color? No, the eagle feels pretty good about himself. They are pure majesty and power. The ant doesn’t look at the lion and think, “Oh my goodness, I wish I had that furry mane!” It just goes about its business with focus and intent. Everything in nature is content and happy with where it is at. The sun doesn’t want to be the moon and the ocean
does not want to be a river.

You and I are part of nature and everything is perfect in the gifts that it brings to this planet. The same goes for you. You are perfect in the gifts that you bring to this planet too. You just may not have remembered that.

Most people are familiar with the Bible command that “you must love your neighbor as yourself.” Maybe the easiest way to solve the world’s problems would be to simply acknowledge the love you have for yourself and then show the same love to others. You make sure you eat, drink, bath and sleep. You take great pride in ensuring your safety, physically, mentally, emotionally, and financially. Wouldn’t you agree?

If acknowledgement of how much you love yourself is an area in your life where you can improve, please make a list of what you do in a day that shows that you really do love yourself. Then recognize all that you do for yourself each and every day as appreciation of the amazing human being that you are. Lose the OLD story that you are undeserving and you don’t love yourself because they are blatant lies.

Then see how you can foster loving your neighbor as yourself this month in a way that is appropriate for you. Can you give someone a hug that needs to feel some physical touch? Can you donate some food to the food bank? Can you give something away that you aren’t using but someone else would thoroughly enjoy? Perhaps a simple phone call, email or card to a friend letting them know how much you appreciate them would be a loving sign.

I promise you that when you look at your life closely, you will see that you do love yourself. A LOT! When we can as individuals, and then collectively as a society realize that more fully, we will show up in the world quite differently. You won’t feel so lost, alone, empty and in need of things to complete you. You will realize beyond a shadow of a doubt that you are perfect, whole and complete.

So admit that you really do love yourself. Take a lesson from the nature around you and know how special you are.

Blessings,

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Jan Janzen is a non-denominational minister, author and entrepreneur. Her book Devil with a Briefcase: 101 Success Secrets for the Spiritual Entrepreneur along with her CD series for the Spiritual Entrepreneur and other resources for the entrepreneur with ethics are available at
www.spiritualentrepreneurinfo.com. For more information on Jan’s ministry and her support of microfinance projects around the world, please visit www.janjanzenministries.com

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