Do You Really Have an Ego?

Does your ego negatively affect your life? Are you always feeling like you need to be on guard against your ego? Ego is made out to be this big black ugly monster that makes us to be “not nice people”.

You can decide what you want about the ego but I never talk about it because I don’t believe that we have something inside of us that controls us to do evil. I don’t’ think we have an ego as it is commonly understood. Yeah, I know. Pretty radical statements but see if this makes sense.

I believe we have programs that create triggers, responses and reactions to
situations. It’s that simple. So someone is boasting about an accomplishment. We would normally identify that person as having an ego. I would say that person doesn’t feel good about themselves at a sub-conscious or Soul level and is looking for recognition and importance. Identify why they don’t feel good about themselves and give them the recognition they probably deserve, but don’t know how to get or receive because of their upbringing, and you no longer have an ego problem.

We feel hurt because someone says something mean and we react. People will say that our ego was hurt. I believe that what probably happened is that the comment triggered a program, belief or emotion filed in your sub-conscious mind that was based on fear, anger or some other negative emotion. Resolve that memory and you won’t react that way the next time around.

Honestly, we all have an innate need to be important. Of course we do. That’s not ego – that’s our divinity or our “godness” coming out. Unfortunately, it doesn’t always show up dressed in a black tuxedo with tails but rather shows up in mismatched clothes that smell of bad B.O. Sometimes as we find the balance between knowing that we are the most important person in the world while caring about others upsets the apple cart.

You see, we know in the very core of our DNA that we deserve the best – we
have God Eternal Within the Body written in our very DNA. We are made in
God’s image. We get our own perfection at a core level. Yet we are dealing with the imperfection of our flesh and blood at the same time. It makes for a
challenging walk on the tightrope we call life. And at times we say or do things that don’t reflect the godness within each and every one of us. Sometimes we fall short of our divinity – grossly short. That’s the meaning of sin – missing the mark of perfection.

However, as we release the programs that we don’t feel loved, appreciated,
important, valued, respected and honored, we also need less assurance that we really are okay. We don’t need to blow our own horn in public when everyone would like some silence. We don’t find ourselves reacting to every comment with criticism and a harsh tongue because we are at peace with ourselves and the world.

Someone once told me that ego was an acronym for Edging God Out and I like that. That works for me. Ego is not a bad thing anymore than it is a good thing – ego is just what we call the outward response or reaction to something that triggers an emotion, belief or program in us. Every response or reaction probably doesn’t quite emulate God in his perfection. Everything we say does edge God out someway, somehow. And rightly so. We are not God. We are made in God’s image and we have God’s magnificent qualities in our make-up, in our very DNA, but we are not God and so we will not act like God.

Rather than be concerned, upset and focused on our ego from a negative
standpoint, why not let go of more of the fear, doubt, guilt and need to be more important than the next person. As you let go of the programming and beliefs that foster low self-esteem and unworthiness, you will edge God out less and less. We still may horrify or shock ourselves once in a while when we have a negative reaction to something that comes up in our life but just note what got triggered and then let it go. It’s nothing to be ashamed of, embarrassed about or feel guilty over.

It’s part of the refining process of who we are as we move into greater and
greater power. It’s part of the growing process as we move into greater and
greater love. It is simply part of the package of being a human. Accept the
opportunities to see what needs to be healed as a gift, a precious treasure and not as something that you need to beat yourself up over. Apologize, make amends, do what is necessary to make right the wrong and get on with life.

It’s much more peaceful, joyful and loving to feel compassion and understanding for yourself and others rather than seeing the ego, the evil, the Satan in people. Look for the God in everyone including yourself and you’ll be amazed at the goodness you find. It’s really quite remarkable.

Blessings,

P.S. This is a chapter from my new book coming out this fall. It’s called Getting Off the Merry-Go-Round – How to create the life you want without the fear, doubt and guilt.

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Jan Janzen is a non-denominational minister, author and entrepreneur. Her book Devil with a Briefcase: 101 Success Secrets for the Spiritual Entrepreneur along with her CD series for the Spiritual Entrepreneur and other resources for the entrepreneur with ethics are available at
www.spiritualentrepreneurinfo.com. For more information on Jan’s ministry and her support of microfinance projects around the world, please visit www.janjanzenministries.com

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