Mother´s Day Dinner

The only thing constant about life is change. Every moment is new, never to be repeated, never before seen. Mother´s Day always reminds me so poignantly of that fact. It was Labor Day weekend, 2005 that my mother passed on. My life forever changed. Yesterday, I celebrated Mother´s Day with Greg and his 97-year-old mother.

Mother´s Day can bring a tremendous amount of emotions to the forefront. For those of you who have a mother you are close to, it can remind you that she won´t always be with you. Many have an estranged relationship with Mom and so Mother´s Day can bring the emotions of anger, sadness or guilt.

Many women today have chosen to not become a mother and so Mother´s Day can bring a feeling of regret or doubt about whether or not you made the right choice.

And there are mothers who are alone, having lost a child, given up a child for adoption, or have children living in other parts of the world. That can bring up a strong emotion of loneliness.

Of course, for someone at 97, one wonders whether or not, there will be another Mother´s Day to celebrate. We made the most of it. We spent the day at the beach with friends and then took Jeanette out for a wonderful dinner at the best restaurant in town.

All of us have had strong negative emotions show up in our life because of an experience, a decision we made or a circumstance that showed up unexpectedly. It´s easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of those emotions. I watch myself when I constantly need to retell the same sordid story.

Move on with your life and focus on what you desire to create the life you want. Focus on the positive emotions, the joys, the happinesses, the peace, and the goodness that you want as the centerpoint in your life.

One of the easiest ways to move out of the negative and into the positive is to release and let go of the negative. Easier said than done? Not necessarily. My book, Getting Off the Merry-Go-Round: How to Create the Life You Want Without the Fear, Doubt and Guilt explains in detail how to do that.

However, in a nutshell, you can let go of the negative by stating clearly: I release at a DNA and cellular level…and then let the thoughts, emotions and words flow that come when you think about a certain person, circumstance or event.

You will be amazed at how freeing this easy exercise really is. Moving on with your life is a daily commitment. Staying in the positive and out of the negative is a choice…again a daily one. This exercise will help you make that choice.

As Monique and I prepare for the Discover Your Sacred Gifts workshop starting tomorrow, we are thrilled to have a sold-out workshop! Yesterday, I closed my blog with the statement that I do what I love and delegate the rest. This is a big clue to creating the life you want. For many people, that feels like an impossibility. How can you JUST do what you want?

It´s actually easier than you think. We have been programmed that we have to “do whatever it takes”, to “suck it up princess”, that “life is hard so get used to it”. That is programming from a generation that went through a Depression and World Wars. It is not programming that needs to be accepted or adopted by people living in developed countries in 2009. Yes, if I was a peasant living in rural India, there are things that I need to accept, but anyone reading this blog is not in that category.

So let´s release that belief at a DNA and cellular level that your life needs to be hard, difficult, and challenging because that´s a lie. It is simply not true.

One of the easiest ways that I have manifested a life that is fun, easy and abundant is to do my Sacred Gifts. These are divinely appointed gifts in all of us that were given to us at birth. You may have a supernatural gift of teaching, writing, craftsmanship, writing, wisdom or healing for example. When you are doing what energizes you, produces extraordinary results and is of benefit to others, have you noticed how fabulous you feel, how easy things are and how you don´t feel tired?

Then go do something that you just hate and doesn´t time drag by, aren´t you exhausted and don´t you feel disempowered? For me that is doing something like formatting an order form or doing accounting. Ask me to write a newsletter, teach a teleclass, be on an interview and I am as excited as a kid in a candy store. You know there are similar things in your life.

So why do you do what you hate, makes you feel awful and produces mediocre results? Stop it! Seriously, find other people to do those jobs for you. I just picked up copies of my new Getting Off the Merry-Go-Round CDs and they look fabulous. Chris, my illustrator did an amazing job. Gabriel, my recording whiz, is incredible. Troy, my duplicator has an attention to detail and the gift of service that makes working with him a pleasure. Ask me to draw the illustrations, figure out the technology for editing or produce the actual CD and I would be unhappier and depressed than a bear in a cage! They would never get done!

However, ask me to do the recording, plan the recording and faciliate the group healing session and I am beyond energized. I am over the top happy, fulfilled, joyful and empowered.

What about you? Start to notice where you are energized or not. See what you do that people comment on favorably. Watch when the time flies by. Then start to do more of those things and watch your life transform. Of course, the best thing you could do is join Monique MacDonald, one of the world´s leading experts on Sacred Gifts in a teleclass that she is doing next month on Sacred Gifts.

If you want to create a magical, mystical, amazing life, letting go of the idea that you HAVE to do the things you don´t like is imperative. Stepping into your Sacred Gifts will revolutionize your life. I know…I did it!

One of my clients told me that she loved the idea of choosing where she was going to live, envisioning exactly what kind of life she would create and then she would feel worried that she´d end up with nothing like she envisioned. Perhaps you feel that way too? Why bother getting all excited about living on the lake, surrounded by trees and beauty, in the tranquility and serenity when you don´t really believe you´ll get there?

That is very common programming. I think many of our parents bought that program at the post-depression bargain store and handed it out freely to every one of their kids! The belief that you can´t have what you want is a popular lie. And it is a lie!

So let´s release this belief in every cell of your body that you can´t have what you want, that you can´t have your cake and eat it too, that you can´t manifest exactly what you want and that it is foolish or stupid to believe that you can create your amazing life.

The other day I was editing the ebook I´m offering on this blog: 10 Secrets to Living the Life of Your Dreams as it had been originally written in 2006 and updated in 2007. I burst out laughing when I read the paragraph about wanting to spend six months writing my next book while spending six months in Mexico, I wanted a silver jag, to spend time at a Bali retreat and diamond earrings. Who wrote her second book in Mexico while spending six months there? Moi! I just found out that my partner actually has a Jag that a friend uses but Greg really owns. It´s red but right now I think that´s pretty funny. We have an unexpected trip in the works to Thailand this year and we will include Bali on the adventure. So I just need to manifest the diamond earrings. And I also realize that I really don´t want to OWN the Jag as I travel too much to be tied down to a vehicle – but I would like to have access to one.

Just by having written down what I wanted, things began to manifest. Have you written down what you want? Do you talk about what you want? I highly recommend you do.

People forget very easily that they are creating every moment of every day. You have created the life you currently have. Guaranteed. Nobody else did. Not the government, your parents, the economy, your marriage mate or your kids. YOU did. So understand that if you created THIS life you are currently living, you can create THAT life. Seriously!

So let´s release at a DNA and cellular level that your dreams are too big, too grandiose, too expensive, too difficult to accomplish. Let´s let go of the programming and belief that life needs to be a struggle and that you can´t create a life of abundance, prosperity, ease, joy, beauty and grace.

And if you want to live on the lake for part of the year, in the desert for 3 months, travel for 6 months or do anything else, put it into your script for life. You can have it all. You do need to ask for it all though to get it all. It´s like if you don´t ask for the mashed potatoes instead of the French fries at the restaurant, you won´t get what you want.

This is a fundamental law of the Universe. Ask and you shall receive. You do have to ask and you do need to allow yourself to receive. If you need some help on the Law of Allowing, subscribe to my newsletter at www.janjanzen.com and you will receive a free report on the Law of Allowing. However, I am going to encourage you to go for the gusto!

Greg and I frequently speak about the magical, divine life we desire, far beyond what either of us is living right now and that´s pretty darn amazing! We talk about the countries and cities we will visit. We see ourselves having breakfasts at little street cafes throughout Europe, we talk about how long we want to spend in Machu Pichu, we discuss our plans for living in Sedona this year as if they are all real and possible. And of course, they are!

Grab hold of those dreams and make them reality. Something is going to be your reality, mark my words. What do you want that something to be? You decide! Then go for it! And have fun creating it.

Several months ago, my neighbors rescued a puppy that was found abandoned at a restaurant in Puerto Vallarta, Mexico. They brought home this little bundle of fluff that fit in their hands and loved her to health and wellness. I arrived here shortly after Precious came into their lives and we have become best buddies. I am even called “Nanny Jan”.

Precious is an Alpha female. She is the “boss” whether or not the dog is bigger or smaller, male or female. I´ve seen her submit to an aggressive German Shepherd male dog that weighs about 100 pounds (so she´s not stupid) but for the most part, Precious is in charge.

This puppy can make me laugh (and I´m sure you will hear plenty about her over the next few months until I leave Bucerias), but what I love most about her is her spunk. She doesn´t care where she came from and she has most definitely forgotten her abandonment issues. She laps up all the love, nurturing and attention she gets with an eagerness to reciprocate.

I work with a lot of clients every week who didn´t come from a great past either. Most of my clients had a difficult time at some level. Perhaps Mom and Dad didn´t want them. Sometimes, they were abused emotionally, physically or suffered sexual abuse. Many were abandoned and felt unloved. Some of the stories I hear weekly are brutal.

It can be hard to leave the past behind. It´s much easier and comfortable to retell the “old stories” of when a parent, a marriage mate or a business partner wronged us or some tragedy befell us. That makes us a victim however and we only emphasize the feeling of powerlessness. Even just going on and on about how we don´t feel well, are tired, broke, stressed, worried or some other negative emotion feeds the subconcious mind with programs we don´t want to reinforce.

Change the story from negative to positive. Find the good in every situation because even in the worst case scenario, there will be one. Watch what you spend most of your day talking about. Find the good in yourself. Know in every cell of your body that you are powerful, you are divine, you are loved by the Universe. Know that and feel it at a DNA and cellular level because it´s true.

I watch Precious “kill” the stuffed toy as she tosses her head viciously, fighting with me for all she´s worth. I´ve laughed loud and hard as she will walk away from me if I am ignoring her and then come flying back into the room a minute later as if she has “arrived”! Ta Da! I´ve smiled right from my core watching her play with the Golden Retriever, Tara who is 10 times her size.

My prayer is that every one of us can heal the past, put aside the stories that aren´t helping us create our lives the way we really want and that we can focus on what we truly desire and deserve. Precious helps me do that every day.