The other day I asked a client to journal about what she really wanted in her life. I encouraged her to write about what kind of home she wanted, where she wanted to travel and what she really wanted to do in her life. When we looked at her homework, incredibly enough, she had written about all the reasons why she couldn´t have the kind of life that I had achieved! We were both a little stunned as she became aware of what she had done.

Robert Schuller said, “the only place where your dream becomes impossible is in your own thinking.” No truer words have been spoken. So much is possible, until you decide that it´s not.

I have coached many people through this process and it is interesting how negative they can be about what they want. They say something like, “I´d really like to be free to travel the world, but……. and then they proceed to tell me exactly why they can´t have what they want.

One of my dearest friends, Monique MacDonald, says constantly in her Discover Your Sacred Gifts workshop that everything after the “but” is crap. The lesson: Say what you want without the excuses. I want to travel the world. I want to be a millionaire. I want to have a beautiful home in Costa Rica on the beach, overlooking the ocean. I want to have a wonderful relationship. Period. Nothing else needed.

The “but” that usually follows sentences like these is your cop-out, your concern that you will disappoint yourself or you won´t get what you really want. Stop making excuses. Stop copping out on what you really want in life.

Get serious and committed to what you really want. Watch your “buts” in your life. Notice how often you use the word “but” to minimize or discount what you really, really want as you create your amazing life.

Remember, dreams are possible if you allow them to flourish and be nourished. Creating your amazing life is simply getting clear on what you want and then going after it like a dog after a cat. We´ll talk more about this subject, but today is a good place to start watching your buts.